When You’re Your Own Valentine


I don’t know about you but unless Joseph Gordon-Levitt or Ben Barnes shows up at my door in the next week or two, I’m going to be single for Valentines Day. But seeing as the grand majority of Valentines Days I’ve experienced over the past 26 years have been spent “alone” I have become an expert on how to spend this Walmart holiday when you don’t have someone to buy you chocolates and flowers. After all, you are a strong, independent woman (or man) that doesn’t need a man (or woman) and we can make our own happiness! Especially when that happiness comes in the form of treating ourselves to mani pedis. Here are some ways to spend your Valentines Day when you won’t be spending it with a significant other (and don’t want to spend it surrounded by other couples):

Get a Mani Pedi – There’s few things that feel as luxurious to me than getting a mani-pedi.

Try a new exercise class – Trying a new fitness class is one of my favorite things to do on any day but if you feel like you need an extra distraction on Valentines Day, sweating your way through a new class will definitely keep your attention

Go for a hike – Nothing clears my head like getting outdoors and away from city life. Also, if you have or can borrow someone else’s dog, this activity increases joy by 10 fold.

Bake something rich – Another activity I enjoy doing any day but making something absolutely decadent on Valentines Day is more than accepted, it’s encouraged. Today is a today to make your cake and eat it too.

Check out your local library or bookstore – The last place you’ll find couples on Valentines day is a library or bookstore. One of my favorite past times is going to my local Barnes and Nobles, finding a spot to sit down and blaze through as many magazines as I can get my hands on.

Make yourself a bath & put on a face mask – I’m not a bath person at all but I know that baths and face masks can be very pampering experiences for some folks. Go the whole nine yards and throw in a lip scrub, a candle and a glass of wine!

Plan a trip – This activity either frightens or excites you. But if you’re like me, the process of planning out a trip or an event is super enjoyable. So if you’ve been thinking about travelling somewhere and have the means to do so, plan it now!

Cleanse your living space – I find the process of purging my apartment, specifically my closet, incredibly cathartic. You have full permission to blast your favorite playlist while you do so. Out with the old and in with the new!

Get a facial or massage– If all you really feel like doing is letting someone else take care of you, the spa is where you need to go. You’ll absolutely feel like a million bucks afterwards.

PS – ALL of these activities are better with a fellow single friend so invite another lone soul to your anti-pity pampering party!


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