How I Stack up as an ESFJ


If you’ve ever taken a course in psychology, you’ve probably heard of the Meyer’s Briggs personality test. And as I’ve written in a previous post, I loved learning about the different personality types as it can give insights into personality traits I didn’t recognize I had as well as allows me to learn more about my friends that have a different personality type than myself. And it’s pretty darn accurate! That being said, there are definitely traits that reign more true than others for me. So in the interest of full disclosure, I’m going to share with you just how I stack up as an ESFJ.

Here’s what they have to say about us ESFJ’s:


  • We’re the popular ones of society – This DEFINITELY was not true during my childhood. I was definitely more of a nerdy, theatre/video game geek growing up and was made fun of a lot. As I got older people have become more mature and I’ve become more confident so I guess you could say this has changed a little bit?
  • We take our responsibility to help and do the right thing very seriously – This is spot on. I have a very strong moral compass and tend to put up a bit of a fight if I think something or someone is being treated unfairly.
  • We love to be of service and aid in any way possible as long as they are valued and appreciated – 100%. I love helping others and feel like I’m making a difference for other people. I also think it’s really important to tell people you appreciate them so if someone is under appreciative or taking advantage of me or someone I love, I’ll definitely take notice.
  • At a party, we love to chat and laugh with everyone and make sure everyone is comfortable and taken care of – Depends. If I am the host of the get-together then this is absolutely true. If I’m not, I’ll tend to stick around people I know.
  • Coming to terms with our sensitivity is a huge challenge – I think this was more true when I was younger but since graduating college I definitely think I’ve become less sensitive to poor feedback. That being said, if it’s coming from someone I love, I definitely take it to heart.


  • Strong practical skills (day-to-day managers) – Yup, to a tee. I love routine and order and get a lot of satisfaction from putting things in order.
  • Strong sense of duty (to meet obligations and expectations) – I have a huge guilty conscience so yes, if I let people down, I feel incredibly bad.
  • Very loyal – Definitely the most true of my strengths. I’m loyal to a fault.
  • Sensitive and Warm – I am very empathetic which can be a good and a bad thing at times. It makes me sensitive to emotions and words aimed at myself as well as emotions being felt by others. And I’d like to think I’m warm! That’s kind of a hard one to answer about yourself!
  • Good at connecting with others – I think this is true in most circumstances. I was a bit of an outcast growing up and had trouble connecting with people so I actively make an effort to connect with others that may feel uncomfortable because I’ve been there and it’s not very fun.


  • Worried about their social status – I definitely spend too much time thinking about what others think of me but it’s not necessarily related to social status. Basically I just don’t want to be made fun of and feel how I did when I was a kid. As long as that doesn’t happen, I should be okay.
  • Inflexible – I’m flexible when it comes to scheduling but when it comes to my morals and values, I know I’m very inflexible. So I guess this one is spot on! Oops.
  • Reluctant to innovate or improvise – As I’ve gotten older I’ve gotten braver with this. This blog is a perfect example! I still have work to do though.
  • Vulnerable to criticism – If it’s from someone I love and respect, 100%. If it’s from someone else, I am still pretty vulnerable but definitely getting better!
  • Often too needy – I definitely disagree with this one. My mom taught me to be a “strong independent woman” and I definitely am.
  • Too selfless – I don’t agree with this one either. I think I pay the right amount of attention to others as well as myself? This one is hard to tell!

I would love to know what your personality types are and how you stack up to your type! I find this stuff absolutely fascinating 🙂 Take the test here!


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