It’s been a long time since I started a new series but after reading Cupcakes and Cashmere’s coffee posts that give a little more insight into Emily and her team’s feelings on certain topics, I was inspired to open up a little more about topics that I might otherwise not cover. Let me know what you think of this series idea!
- Do you believe chivalry is dead?
- No, I don’t believe chivalry is dead but I do think that the expectations have changed. In the past, chivalry was more of a necessity in showing a woman that he could take care of her but as women become more and more independent, chivalry has become less of a “necessity” and more of a kind gesture.
- Does chilvarous equate to sexist?
- No. A man can offer to pay for your dinner without the underlying thought that you can’t afford it yourself. Sometimes they just want to treat you! If he does think you can’t afford your food, however, that is sexist.
- Should a man pay on the first date?
- Not necessarily. I personally offer to split the bill on any date I go on and only let the man pay if they insist. If they do pay, that’s great and super sweet but should never be necessary.
- Are you okay with a man paying for your food/drinks most of the time?
- Yes, but only if it’s of their own volition. While I might let the man I’m seeing pay for the majority (upon his persistence), I will always make and effort to front the bill at a cheaper meal or buy the coffee (meals, drinks and snacks where they are less likely to make a fuss over the bill).
- Can you be a feminist and still admire chivalry?
- Yes! For me, being a feminist means that you believe in equality. You can believe that women and men deserve to be treated equally and also appreciate when a guy holds a door for you.
I would love to know your thoughts and/or questions on this topic because it is one that comes up a lot in conversations with my friends and family.